Step Seven

7:- “Humbly asked our Higher Power to remove these liabilities and to help us to strengthen our assets for recovery.”


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A core principle behind the Seventh Step is taking the actions required to move foreword in our dual recovery. We ask for and follow the good advice we are given.

IN OUR OWN WORDS:
Members share their thoughts on the Seventh Step

Step Seven is where the rubber meets the road. We take actions to implement the changes we need to make. We ask our higher and helping powers for help and guidance. We continue to ask for help and feedback because it usually takes a lot of time to make these changes and it’s easy to revert back to our old coping strategies.Anonymous (www.draonline.org)
Step Seven was really a turning point for me in my ability to trust my Higher Power and the Program of recovery. Up till then I was mostly trying to stay straight and keep my act together one day at a time. All of a sudden I really wanted to change a lot more… to work at bringing myself into a more harmonious relationship with the world. To find out what this talk of serenity was all about.Anonymous (www.draonline.org)
For me, Step Seven involved considerable risk taking. Trying to do new things in new ways. It took practice to learn to reach out at meetings and develop new friendships. I took a big risk when I accepted a service position in my Home Group. It took a lot of faith and help from my Higher Power to do these things… to not just say no automatically.Anonymous (www.draonline.org)
Step Seven starts with the word “Humbly” so we can gather that humility is an important key to this Step. Humility is just about the exact opposite of humiliation. It is a sense of our very humanness. A realistic acceptance of our strengths and weaknesses. We have been developing a more realistic acceptance of ourselves by working the first six Steps. Here’s where I think humility really pays off. We get better on two levels. One we have a lot of control over. It’s an intellectual choice as to how we behave and react to situations. We know what’s right and we try to do it. But there’s a deeper level of change that we can’t really predict just when or how it happens. That’s when we undergo changes on our personality and in our automatic reactions to what life throws our way. We can take all the Steps and do our best to use all the tools and assets we have, but those deeper changes happen in God’s own time and manner. So when I say humility, I mean that we do what we can as best we can and the rest is up to our Higher Power.Anonymous (www.draonline.org)
I started by using my DRA Group as my Higher Power. I was very angry at God back then and didn’t want anything to do with Him. My feelings have changed considerably over time but that’s really just my own business. The deal is that we start with an open mind and build from there.Anonymous (www.draonline.org)
I like to start with the last part of Step Two. It implies that we had lost our sanity by suggesting it needs to be restored. It says, “…could restore us to sanity.” As a person who lives with and has to manage a chronic psychiatric disorder on a daily basis, I am not entirely happy with this choice of words. But then again, I find it uncomfortably accurate and accept it as it relates to my thinking and behaviours where cocaine was concerned. Man– the things I did and said to stay on a run. I would have sold my grandmother’s teeth for one more line and I love my grandma. I really needed help to get out of that kind of lifestyle. So in my mind, Step Two is about research and planning.Anonymous (www.draonline.org)
Somewhere, I think maybe in the NA book, it says that the insanity of this disease is “repeating the same mistakes over and over and expecting different results.” That’s what I did all the time. Every time I drank I told myself that this time I would only drink a couple of beers then go home. I did that day after day and the next thing I’d know I was totally blasted or it was the next day and I didn’t remember much of anything. I did the same things with my meds. Time and time again I’d be feeling level for awhile and so I’d go off my meds. Each time I’d end up manic. I just couldn’t get it through my head that the meds where what was keeping me level. I really think my intensions were good back then, I mean, I was miserable and sick and I hated it. I didn’t like ending up back at the hospital all the time, I wanted a way out but it felt like death was the only option. For me, getting into a dual treatment center was a life-saver. They made the Second Step real for me. I could see and experience all the help that was available to me. I believed they really cared and would continue to help me. I believed that with their help, I could quit the vicious cycles I was trapped in and get healthy again.Anonymous (www.draonline.org)
Well, after working Step One and finding out that I couldn’t do this recovery thing by myself, I would have been in a hell of a fix if there wasn’t someone or something out there somewhere that was more knowledgeable, stronger, and wiser than myself that was willing and capable of helping me and supporting me in my recovery.Anonymous (www.draonline.org)
 
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